Saturday, January 21, 2017

Women's March 2017


Seeing all of the news on social media about the women's march following Donald Trump's inauguration, I figured I would hop on here and share my piece...  I am not going to specify my views on our presidential election or if I supported Donald Trump's candidacy, etc. because I don't feel like getting into politics right now.  Surprise! #saveitforanotherday

But no matter how I feel, how you feel, or what anybody else in our country feels about him, sorry to break it to you, but he is our president. You can shout "He's not my president" all ya want.  Now, don't get me wrong.  I am so thankful to live in a country where we have the freedom of speech and the right to protest.  I am not suggesting that this end, but the "sticks and stones" have got to go.  America prides itself in the "peaceful transfer of power".  It is our job as Americans to pray for Trump, to encourage others to have hope, and to make a difference in our world for the better.  To put yourself out there, stand up for your beliefs and for what IS right...  Not women's rights. ;)

Yes, Women have rights, but we are not equal to men... Now don't take this the wrong way!  By no means am I telling you that you can be looked down upon, or be abused because you are a women...  Our lives are important, our faith is important, our thoughts are important, WE are important. But we are not a man, and in the same way a man is not a woman.  We are different, which is an amazingly, glorious thing that God has bestowed upon us!  Therefore, we are not equal to a man, just as a giraffe is not equal to a lion... 
Not equal...unique.

 You see, both have a purpose in this world, both have different ways of eating, surviving, living, etc. Both are beautiful creatures with dignity and honor, yet you will still find someone who's doesn't like a giraffe and thinks a lion is the king of the jungle.  Or you might find someone who loves baby giraffes and hate that mean lion always on the hunt.  Both, however, have a purpose and no one can diminish that purpose, they can just choose to simply overlook it. 

Maybe someone may choose to overlook a women's purpose on this earth, simply because it is not the same as a man's, which it isn't, but our worth does not escape the Creator's eyes!  He knows the purpose of a woman...He designed us and knit each of our fibers with a specific purpose and meaning.  Such as how we all do not look the same as other human beings, women do not look the same as men.  How amazing is it to be unique?  Isn't it great?  And although some people may think that being different or unique is not beautiful, you have nothing to prove!  I do not feel the need to walk down a street holding a sign to make myself feel better or to feel like I am a part of the team, because I know my place in this world. I have worth, I am different than a man, and I feel like that should be celebrated.  

My name is Gabrielle Marie,
I am a daughter,
a sister,
a friend,
an encourager, 
A believer in the One True King,
saved by grace alone, 
 I AM feminine,
 I AM NOT a feminist...
I am a believer, in My God, in my faith, and in my worth.
I am because He is.
I was put on this earth for a reason, to protect the unborn, to protect my family and friends, to shine for my Savior, and to spread the Gospel...  I am confident and willing to stand up for what is right, I pray that you will stand with me.

In Christ, 
Gabrielle

#Youarenotmarchingforme

And if you would like to read my post about abortion, which is also trying to be protected in this march, please click this link below!  
*Hint* I will not stand around and watch people take away so many children rights while having them murdered under the noses of millions of americans nationwide....
I do not support women's rights when it implies the murder of so many children everyday...

Friday, January 20, 2017

It's Been A Minute...

Hello everyone...  I can't believe how long it's been since coming on here!  So much has happened this past year and a half, and I seemed to have lost you guys in the midst of it all...  I cannot wait to tell you about all of my adventures that my crazy life has taken me on while I have been absent on this blog!  I hope your ready, because I have some stories to tell, book reviews to write, opinions to prove, and studies to share, as I always do...  Thanks for waiting patiently on this continuous game of Hide and Seek!  Love you all!  
In Christ, Gabby

Friday, July 10, 2015

Happy 504th Birthday John Calvin!


Happy birthday to such an amazing pastor, author, and theologian.  

John Calvin contributed much to the study of God's word and reformed theology (later known as Calvinism) with his commentaries on the Bible and one of his most famous works "Institutes of Christian Religion" along with many other sermons and confessional documents.  Many of his topics he discussed were of God's absolute sovereignty in man's salvation to which I am very appreciative.  He was the means that God used to lead me to study His word myself, which ultimately lead me to the truth and I am sure many others have a similar story.
May he always be remembered as a man God used in great ways to further His kingdom, and that this man wouldn't have been so greatly influential in the world apart from the grace of God.  

To celebrate this great "holiday" here are a few free offers that are only available today and I greatly suggest you take advantage of them!

The John Calvin Commentary

The Expository Genius of John Calvin by Steven Lawson.

John Calvin: A Heart for Devotion, Doctrine, and Doxology.

"A dog barks when his master is attacked. I would be a coward if I saw that God's truth is attacked and yet would remain silent."
-John Calvin

In Christ,
Gabrielle

Saturday, June 27, 2015

I'm Not Going To Give You Peanuts... (Homosexuality is a sin)

The decision made by SCOTUS to legalize gay marriage in all 50 states has garnered much attention from media everywhere.  People are changing profile pictures, to changing the lights on their houses to match this agenda's campaign.  People are on streets and phones, websites and doorsteps, proclaiming that this is peace, this is equality, this is LOVE.  When, while they do not yet know it, they are doing the most hateful act they could ever impose on someone.  They are encouraging these people, and as the quote goes "fluffing up their pillows" for their flight to hell.  
In our society today, convenience is key.  That is why so many people have watered down Christianity, send their kids to public school, and practice sexual immorality, just to name a few.  
Let me break that down for you...

People have a watered down Christianity because they want a ticket to heaven with no sacrifice.  If they have to lay down their life...die to self, they would just rather not.  It easy, it's safe, and you don't have to do anything except say a prayer to get there.

Most Mothers and Fathers send their kids to a public school so that they do not have to deal with the struggles of everyday life with their children or because that is just more convenient. They put all of their worries on someone else...trust others with education...sex Ed specifically speaking and don't have to be the one to initiate discipline or have to carry the burden of providing their children with a solid, biblical, education.  

Saying just a prayer won't get you to heaven, just like sending your child to a facility won't make your kids want to serve the Lord, abstain from sex, or good people in general. It takes work, it takes energy, but in the long run it is completely and utterly satisfying!  I would love to stay on this topic, more in a later post, but this is not what  I am here to discuss.

I am here to state truth on the subject of sexual immorality.  
In the light of all the buzz on social media, many internet "celebrities" have come out of the closet.  One of those being a woman by the name of Ingrid.  I listened to her story to gain insight about her justification for her sin. Surprisingly (or not) enough her reasoning was she couldn't deny her nature.  
I could not agree more with that statement.

God created man blameless.  When Adam ate of the forbidden fruit, our whole world changed. It became fallen, we became dead in our sins. Nothing we could do ourselves would change it, our forefather Adam, sinned against the Holy God, and we, his offspring inherited it. 
"Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity, And in sin my mother conceived me." (Psalms 51:5 NASB
 We do not crave truth or righteousness, we flee from light and live in the bliss of our darkness as we drown in the pit of sinfulness.  Our highway to hell. 

"Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God." (1 Corinthians 6:9-10 NASB)
"For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God," (Romans 3:23 NASB)
"Therefore, just as through one man sin entered into the world, and death through sin, and so death spread to all men, because all sinned- "(Romans 5:12 NASB)
Homosexuality is a sin, and it will send you to hell.  Just like any of the other sins stated above.  It is just as serious as murder, and definitely just as lethal.
Society has warped our view of scripture to make people in their states of sin not just "socially acceptable", but celebrated!  When in biblical times these people were hanged for their mockery of God.  These people in these high places of authority are mocking God and we are giving them the right to offer sinners their peanuts during their journey.  
I am not here to embrace sin, I am here to expose it.  These people are on their way to hell and we are called to preach the gospel.  
There is a battle ahead of us, but beyond that battle is hope.  A hope of the future and a hope for the lost.  God is sovereign, and He will win the war.  We are his soldiers and we must stand up ready to fight and to be used for His glory.  
"And Jesus came up and spoke to them, saying, "All authority has been given to Me in heaven and on earth. Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I commanded you; and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age." (Matthew 28:18-20 NASB)
 True love isn't accepting sin, it's sharing with the sinner.  We must show true love to others and share the gospel.  
So you see, Ingrid WAS correct in saying it was her nature. 
Our nature IS sin.
You need God to change that nature.

If you are living in sin, please repent from it!  Turn from your sin.
Believe in Him.
And trust Him in all aspects of your life...

"Moreover, I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you; and I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh. I will put My Spirit within you and cause you to walk in My statutes, and you will be careful to observe My ordinances. "(Ezekiel 36:26-27 NASB)

In Christ, 
Gabrielle

Wednesday, March 11, 2015

The Dance...

My best friends,

my brother and I
all decided that we wanted to go to a homeschool dance that we had heard about...
We went as brother/sister pairs. Accountability is everything!

When we hear "homeschool",  we think of the privilege some parents have to allow their kids to stay home and guide them in their studies based on a biblical worldview....or at the very least somewhat guarded from our declining culture.  Sadly though, this group of people did not have the same worldview.  The color in their tinted lenses, was one of a "Tolerating", "Accepting", and "loving", people with alternative lifestyles.  Which we unfortunately did not hear about until after this all went down.  They were open to all different lifestyles, and accepting people in sin for "who they are".  We as Christians should definitely love others that are in sin, but we should have a different love than the world.  A God love. We should love them so much that we grieve for their souls.  We should grieve for theirs souls so much that we would run for the opportunity to share the Gospel and plead with them to beg God for repentance and forgiveness.  So you can see why we were disappointed.  

This is what probably offended me the most with this group...that it just a mere reflection of what the culture is really all about.  They want us to openly celebrate SIN.  From dancing to horrible music choices, to saying aww when two thirteen year-olds are making out in the back corner.  If you think about it, the culture wants Christians to accept and celebrate their choices (Gays, lesbians, Buddhists, Muslims, atheists, feminists, etc.), as seen in the dance's choice of music, but when we want to celebrate what we believe in, they immediately turn away....heck, most times they get angry and shout "intolerance!" There was not one Christian song, or even a song that acknowledged God in a holy manner, in the entire 4 hours we were there...  If anything they played songs that only mocked Him.  It was extremely saddening.  But when we stand up for what we believe, we are the bad guys.  Take a look at the Grammy Nominee "Take me to Church" by Hoizer (which was one of the song choices for this dance BTW)...  That just throws tolerance out the window, doesn't it? 

Our moms explained on the way home, "Culture calls high school the best 4 years of one's life" and it is due to experiences like this??

Anyways, I could go on this subject forever...  My favorite part of that night was getting ready for the dance (Thank you Mom, Dad, Mr. And Mrs. Ryan!).
We all had so much fun getting ready,

taking pictures, 

riding in the "limo" jamming to some great beats,

an incredible dinner set to live music...
etc.  I love every opportunity that I get to spend time with the people that I love!  Although, you knew we would see the fruit of man's sin, you guys encouraged us to get out into the culture, proclaiming God's truth and holding to His standard!...
Many give our parents a hard time about sheltering their children but if any of YOU know any of US...you know we are quite "well rounded" as the parents like to say. Our exposure to the world is always under the protection of our protectors. We are thankful that the mission of our parents is to raise soldiers. We will be armed and dangerous when we step out on our own. 

2 Timothy 2:4 4 "No soldier gets entangled in civilian pursuits, since his aim is to please the one who enlisted him."

Soli Deo Gloria 

"Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect." Romans 12:2

Which leads me into the end of my post.  Which is probably my favorite part!!  

After seeing what the culture is getting to do, and how people enjoy it...  How much more effective would it be if we did the same exact thing with a different motive, Doing it to the glory of God, behind it?  Do you see where I'm going with this?  

That's right! 

WE ARE THROWING OUR OWN DANCE!  Only with this dance, our goal will be to keep morals and values....our motive behind all activities in line with God's Word. There will be heavy filtering on the music, a dress code, we will be encouraging teens to come as groups and not with "dates", and will be eliminating the aspect of "slow" dancing...  Our theme will be the 1940's, WWII era.  Our featured dancing technique will be swing.  Everyone will look like they stepped right out of that black-and-white screen and into today (victory rolls, polka dots, aviators and all!).  Everyone will leave knowing a little bit more about what really happened during that decade!  Also, all of the proceeds will be going to a meaningful charity having to do with war veterans (still being determined).  

More information will be coming soon.  And if you would like an email notification about it, please email me using the "Contact me" box on the side, and as soon as we have a newsletter put together, I will make sure it gets sent to you!  

1 Timothy 1:12-17
"I thank him who has given me strength, Christ Jesus our Lord, because he judged me faithful, appointing me to his service, though formerly I was a blasphemer, persecutor, and insolent opponent. But I received mercy because I had acted ignorantly in unbelief, and the grace of our Lord overflowed for me with the faith and love that are in Christ Jesus. The saying is trustworthy and deserving of full acceptance, that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners, of whom I am the foremost. But I received mercy for this reason, that in me, as the foremost, Jesus Christ might display his perfect patience as an example to those who were to believe in him for eternal life. To the King of the ages, immortal, invisible, the only God, be honor and glory forever and ever. Amen."

In Christ, 
Gabrielle Ansolabehere.

Friday, January 16, 2015

Taking a stand...Culture, Sex, and Abortion.

DISCLAIMER:
This is a very sobering post.  Very near and dear to my heart, but one that is often not shared openly so use caution with the younger ones.  I will be using appropriate terminology.  This may be a post you will want to save for after you have had the birds and the bees talk with your son and/or daughter...and have explained things such as contraceptives and abortion.

That being said...
WHAT is happening in our society?  How have we come to the place where we are silent?  Parents, where are you?
 
Where should we stand on Premarital sex, condoms and birth control, abortion, and sex-ed...
This post is very broad.
 
Premarital Sex
I will be talking about this first, because all the other topics I have to hit on usually stem from sex outside of marriage.
Most of you know that I have committed to staying pure....furthermore, it is my personal conviction to save even my first kiss for my husband.  Purity, though, is not just a conviction, but also because it is a command from God...
 
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
"For this is the will of God, your sanctification hat you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust, like the gentiles who do not know God."
 
 Hebrews 13:4
"Let the marriage bed be held in honor among all, an let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous."
 
and there are so many more!!
God intended for sex to be pure and healthily shared between a man and his wife.  This is supposed to be a celebrated union, where two people show their affection to one another without committing sin.  But many foolish teens AND adults don't take the Bible's word for it. And end up ruining others, themselves, and sin against God.

80 percent of teenage pregnancies are unplanned.  And the main rise in teenage pregnancy is among girls younger than 15.  67% of teens that have had sexual intercourse wish they had waited.  Teenhelp.com 

About 820,000 teens get pregnant each year.  That means that 34% of teens have been pregnant at least once before they are 20.

How many of these teens had premarital sex? 
 I do believe it is safe to say ALL of them.
  
If you have been reading my blog for a little while, you know that I encourage NOT only staying away from sin, but also FOR pursuing righteousness so in this case it would not just being abstinent, but it would also be pursuing purity...  for more on this topic please refer to this earlier post Here!

PARENTS!!  Do not wait to talk to your children.  First and foremost, model a Godly marriage.  My parents gross me out all the time, BUT, really, they are showing us daily what this is supposed to look like.  Secondly, the, dare-I-say, SEX talk is NOT a foreign language.  If you are not talking openly to your children, someone else is or will...especially if they attend public school.  Daddies should be teaching their sons to respect a lady...EVEN in body.  Yes, some women are scandalous in dress, but help them...TEACH them to train their eyes.  MODEL THIS!! Show your daughters how they are to be loved by the way you love them and their mother.  Mamas, teach your daughters their worth...MODEL MODESTY!!! 
PROTECT YOUR CHILDREN!!
Where are your children?

To you young adults reading this:
Are you dating?  Are you ready to be married?  What are you giving...throwing away, that you should be keeping for your future spouse?  If you haven't thought about it, do so now!  Make goals, go to scripture.  Talk to your parents.  Stay solid in your convictions...set up boundaries.  You don't need to be alone with the opposite sex, it just invites temptation. What are you watching?  What is written in your text messages?
If you are reading this a little late...it is never too LATE to find restoration.  Make a change now...seek God in His word.  Be bold...be courageous.

We need to be that generation to rise up.  No more cowards...
Never surrender.
Live to the glory of the LORD!

My next issue is the use of condoms and birth control...
 (FIRST, SPEAKING TO MARRIED FOLKS BECAUSE IF YOU ARE UNMARRIED, YOU HAVE NO BUSINESS USING BIRTH CONTROL OR CONTRACEPTIVES!!) 
 
Because I don't want to make this post a year long, I would URGE you to research any method you are thinking of to "prevent" pregnancy.  Do NOT just trust your doctors or friends.   Read the fine lines!! 

"My people perish for lack of knowledge."
Hosea 4:6

Birth Control...the birth control pill, morning after pill, etc... ARE abortificants.
http://www.thepillkills.org/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EMRFAhfCX10

 
Cities4life.org is a great source.
 
Although condom, vasectomy, and tubal ligations are not considered "abortificants"  because they strictly PREVENT pregnancy,  this is going against scripture pertaining to the sanctity of life.

Sanctity of Life: 
The phrase sanctity of life refers to the idea that human life is sacred and holy, argued mainly by the pro-life side in political and moral debates over such controversial issues as abortion, contraception, euthanasia, and embryonic stem cell research.

Genesis 1:27
"So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them."

Jeremiah 1:5
"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you; I appointed you a prophet to the nations."

Psalm 136:13-16
"For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mothers womb.  I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.  Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.  My frame was not hidden to you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth.  Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were, when as yet there none of them."

Psalm 127:3
"Behold, children are an heritage of the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward."

Although contraceptives are not considered abortion, it is going against God's design for marriage, and is giving teens a "safeguard" so as to perform this sacred ritual outside of wedlock.  OH and Sex Ed!!  I don't believe in "sex ed" unless it is the parents doing the "ed".  Some would use the excuse "I don't know how to talk about it.", "I don't know when to talk about it." or "I don't know what to say."  WELL, I can assure you that my parents are no scholars...they may not have been graceful in the way they dropped the bomb (my dad may or may not have referred to a buck in the rut when speaking with Abraham), but they got the job done.
Even teaching your children about safe sex is ridiculous.  There is no such thing as "safe sex".  Outside of marriage, it destroys lives, robs future spouses of the whole heart of the one they marry.  And even worse, it is one of the leading causes of murder.
Death by detachment, scissors to the skull or poison...of a baby.
So please pray about this...  I cannot change your view on the subjects above, but God can.  And so I pray that if you are active or are condoning others in these "activities", that you would pray and seek God's guidance through His holy Word on these issues.

There are LOTS of scripture references I could add to this.  It is a controversial subject even among believers.  I firmly believe in the Lord deciding my family size...it is my personal conviction as I study the Word.  I trust Him much more than I trust myself!!

That leads me to my next issue...  Probably the hardest one for me.

Abortion
Definition of abortion:
"The removal of an embryo (A BABY) or fetus (A BABY) from the uterus in order to end a pregnancy."


The ever battle between good and evil.
Definition of pro-life
"Being opposed to legalized abortion."-dictionary.com
Definition of pro choice
"Supporting or advocating legalized abortion."- dictionary.com
 
If you are a "Christian" you probably know about the abortion issue.  I think this and the homosexuality issue are the number one issues on the Christian's plate right now.

Abortion is rampant across the world, Because it is an easy way to get rid of a fetus (fetus is the Latin word for baby...the entire English language is derived from Latin).

There are about 820,000 teens that get pregnant each year (teenhelp.com)..   And 35% of teenagers have an abortion rather than keeping the baby(choicespregnancy.com)...  That is about 250,000 abortions committed by TEENS each year...

That is OUR GENERATION PEOPLE!

http://www.survivors.la/
Survivors of the Abortion Holocaust

Do you know who Margaret Sanger is?
Look her up.
Just a couple of her quotes:
"The most merciful thing that the large family does to one of its infant members is to kill it."
and
"We should hire three or four colored ministers, preferably with social-service backgrounds, and with engaging personalities.  The most successful educational approach to the Negro is through a religious appeal. We don’t want the word to go out that we want to exterminate the Negro population, and the minister is the man who can straighten out that idea if it ever occurs to any of their more rebellious members."

She is the founder of Planned Parenthood.

There are many ways to abort a baby...  I will show you just a few compared to the baby's age and what that little human baby has developed...

Manual Vacuum Aspiration: within 7 weeks after last menstrual period Dilators (metal rods) are used to stretch the cervical muscle until the opening is wide enough for abortion instruments to pass through the uterus. A hand-held syringe is attached to tubing, which is inserted into the uterus. The fetus is suctioned out.
 
 D & E (Dilation and Evacuation): within 13-24 weeks after last menstrual periodThe fetus literally doubles in size between the 11th and 12th weeks of pregnancy. Soft cartilage hardens into bone at 16 weeks, making the fetus too large and strong to pass through a suction tube. The D & E procedure begins by inserting laminaria a day or two before the abortion, opening the cervix wide to accommodate the larger fetal size. The abortionist then both tears and cuts the fetus and uses the vacuum machine to extract its remains. Because the skull is too large to be suctioned through the tube, it must be crushed by forceps for removal. Pieces must be extracted very carefully because the jagged, sharp pieces of the broken skull could easily cut the cervix.

Late Term Abortion...which is now illegal but it is a type of abortion that our current President endorsed: 
Partial-birth abortion is a term that refers to a procedure called dilation & extraction. In a partial-birth/dilation & extraction abortion, a late second or third trimester baby is delivered feet first and the head is held within the mother’s birth canal. Surgical scissors or a syringe is used to pierce the exposed back of the neck, and then the skull contents (i.e. the brain) are suctioned out through a tube.

It is now illegal to do abortions this way. However, abortions are still done in the second and third trimester. They are now done either by dismemberment (D&E) or by injecting digoxin, a potent poison, into the amniotic sac or directly into the baby’s body.
 
 A few "heart-string" arguments for abortion are due to rape, disability of the child, or endangerment of the mother.

All of these are hard, yes.  And  do not want to downplay the struggle and life-long effects that this will have on the lives of those making the decision, BUT it is another LIFE you are making a life-ENDING decision FOR.

“Thou shalt not kill” (Exodus 20:13, Deuteronomy 5:17)

Want a shocker?  Visit:  http://www.numberofabortions.com/

As of right now, there have been over 47,000 abortions in the United States just in 2015...and we haven't even ended the first month.

http://abolishhumanabortion.com/
With a heavy heart, I will leave you with that.
God bless and praying that my generation will rise to the occasion. 
We need a REFORMATION!!

In Christ, Gabrielle

Psalm 123:7 
Psalm 139:13-16
Luke 1:44
Jeremiah 1:5
Job 31:15
Genesis 1:27
Job 10:12 
Proverbs 24:11-12 
Jeremiah 7:6/22:3,17
Exodus 23:7
Proverbs 6:16-17
Matthew 25:40
 
Other links:
 
 
 
 
 

Friday, November 14, 2014

Dating, Purity, and Love... From a Guy's perspective. (Preparing for our Future, Week 5)

Thank you so much Austin, for your second post in the preparing for our future, blog series!  You have inspired me to go to great lengths in my faith, and to always stay strong.  You and Faith are such role models and are amazing encouragers and role models...  Xoxo, Gabby


This blog series has turned out wonderfully. I want to thank Gabrielle again for inviting my sister Faith and I to post on her blog. I pray this post answers questions you have and enlightens you to things you may not have known before. Also, is you have any questions, please comment below and I will do my best to answer. Enjoy!

    
Crush, boyfriend, girlfriend,the K-I-S-S-I-N-G song (person A and person B sittin in a tree K-I-S, you get the point) lovebirds, and the fish in the sea analogy, if you have heard these words(and song) before the fourth grade, then you are not alone! It seems as though every child from the time they can hold another's hand is drilled with concepts of "love", "dating", and and the K word(kiss, oops i said it). If you or your child was anything like me, he/she jumped on the band wagon and played along. Soon they had crushes because it was cool or the norm. Since this "love life" is pushed at a young age, kids in high school are no longer satisfied with just holding hands. Don't believe me go spend a week at you local high-school. It seems as though all they have on their minds is, "what can I get out of this person". All they feel is hormones not love. So are little kid crushes bad? I'll answer that with a pattern that has a main theme through this post; a thought becomes an action which becomes a habit that will either glorify God or glorify oneself. So you tell me if having a crush is glorifying to God or not.

When I had a crush I wanted to learn how to respond biblically, but I could not find a book written to boys about girls in a Biblical point of view(if you know of one please comment). I will do my best to answer questions and make important points that would have helped me with this topic. There may be some things you see in my post that a pastor or preacher has said that I don't credit, only because most things I know I learned from someone else.

What happens when something is broken, but then heals? It becomes tough, harder, and resistant to certain things(depending on what broke). Different types of martial arts require strong, tough bones. That is why some,who are training to fight, will break bones to make them resistant to breakage. The heart works the same way, the more it breaks the harder, tougher, and more resistant(to love) it will become. Having a crush or even the dating process( the art of getting to know someone personally to see if they would be someone you want to marry) can have tremendous effects on the heart. "Breaking up and moving on” is exactly what stiffens the heart to potential love in the future. Dating is a lot like divorce, most premarital relationships will end in a breakup, and in the United States, 1 in 2 marriages end in divorce. Why? Because people are no longer committed after the 5th(not an actual statistic) time being broken-hearted. "You can't be hurt by someone if you never love them", Charles Ingalls(yes, I just quoted from Little House on the Prairie, and yes, I watch that show). Why should we be faithful(loyal) to one another(especially in marriage)? As a Christian, simply because God is loyal and faithful. Again, do you think that dating and breaking up is a (thought that turns into an action that becomes a)habit which will glorify God or oneself?

In my experience at the high school by our house, finding a date is mainly off of looks and position. Guys tend to look for beauty while girls look for the more popular guy in school(and looks). Don't get me wrong I admire beauty as much as the next man, but we must not allow beauty to take precedence(become more important) over Godliness. Instead of chasing false pleasures that are pleasing to the eye we should be chasing the fruits of God that leads to sanctification thought the Spirit(Romans 6:22). So how does someone go from, "wow, she is beautiful!" to lustful thoughts? Well, is a process you may be familiar with, first there is a (lustful)thought, then the action is thinking that that thought is ok, then the habit forms of looking at girls(or girls at guys) lustfully, then that habit will be carried into a marriage, causing problems of unfaithfulness, leading to divorce, something that God shuns.

Dear Young Ladies, if the Lord has blessed you with physical beauty, save it for your husband. To many girls think the way to popularity or finding the best man is by wearing immodest clothing and flaunting themselves, sadly today's society makes that true. Dear Young Christian Men, do not take advantage of young ladies, but instead look at them as sisters, having compassion toward them, and rebuking them in love.

We as Christians should be running toward God as fast as we can. How do you run a race? Are you focused on the prize(in this case God) or are you looking all around? Have you seen those flaps on race-horse’s mask? Those are there to help keep the horse from seeing distractions. That is how we should run toward God, distraction free. Some may ask, “how can I find a spouse I'm only looking straight ahead?” Allow me to add to that question, “how can you see anything if you're only looking straight ahead?”  The only thing you can see is God, so God has to bring something in front of you in order to see it(including a spouse). Being pure isn’t just not dating or kissing and dressing modestly, its a lifestyle. You can’t just think about being pure, you have to(with God’s help) act upon it and make it a habit that will glorify God.

“If your goal is purity of heart, be prepared to be thought very odd.”~ Elisabeth Elliot


You may be wondering, “Why hasn't he used scripture to prove his point?” First of all, you don't use the Bible to prove your point, you use your point to point to the Bible. Second of all, there is not a lot of verses on this topic. However, we have the greatest example of love in marriage. First is Jesus, and how He died for the church, second Hosea, who was told by God to “love a woman who is loved by another man and is an adulteress, even as the Lord loves the children of Israel, though they turn to other gods and love cakes of raisins.” I encourage you to read about Hosea’s unconditional love, that paints a picture of how Christ loves the church. Also, there is a standard Paul gives to the church of Corinth about being yoked with unbelievers. Although this verse does not refer to marriage, it does give a good standard toward marriage. The question is, how could a quality marriage be built and maintained if you disagree on the most crucial issue in the universe—the Lord Jesus Christ?

The Bible also does not give any reference to dating or courtship, but it does give principles to finding “the person”. We first know we shouldn't be like the world, in deed and thought. While the world’s view may be to date around as much as we want, the important thing is to discover the character of a person before making any commitment to him or her. We should find out if the person has been born again in the Spirit of Christ (John 3:3-8) and if he or she shares the same desire toward Christ-likeness (Philippians 2:5). The ultimate goal of dating or courting is finding a life partner. Men and women who choose to date often have no commitment to consider marrying the other person. In contrast, courtship is undertaken only when both parties are prepared to make a commitment to marriage. We need to be held to Godly standards in the way we look for a spouse, “Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you” (Matthew 6:33).

In any situation, we as Christians are called to first glorify God in all we do(1 Cor 10:31)

Doing His Will,
Austin Ryan